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A Complete Guide To Gangbangs

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Note: While you can have a gangbang with someone from any gender / sexual orientation being both the center-person(s) and the gang, I will focus this article on gangbangs that feature a biological female and a bunch of dudes, as this is the type that I’m most familiar with and it makes the writing vastly more streamlined. However, the rules and etiquette are universal for all genders, so feel free to substitute in your personal preferences. 

Gangbangs are one of the most common forms of sexual group play. They are typically an orgy where a central player is vastly outnumbered by suitors (the gang) who has sex with him / her either serially or at the same time.

The popularity of gangbangs are on the rise, and they have actually started to break in along the edges of the sexual mainstream. Last year, Pornhub found that the gangbang category grew in popularity by 88%, with women driving the rise, being 29% more likely to view gangbang videos than their male counterparts. While the general outside perception of this sexual scenario tend to view it as inherently misogynistic or demeaning to women, that couldn’t be farther from the truth. As Pornhub found, it is often women who are the purveyors of gangbangs, primarily with the desire to be the central player.

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What is a gangbang

A gangbang has to have at least one central player and (I’d say) three people in the gang — any less than that and it’s an MFM or just a couple playing by their lonesome. However, gangbangs typically number between five to twenty+ participants, with a ratio of five to ten men per woman usually being the sweet spot. Gangbangs can also have multiple center women.

For larger gangbangs, the group may use fluffers — women who provide oral-only services — to get / keep the men ready for their turn with the center girl(s). The use of fluffers also keeps some of the pressure off of the central players and creates more of a harmonious vibe among the dudes.

Why have gangbangs

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The simple answer: because they’re fun. To get more complex, for the central player I think there is a drive to be the center of attention, to have multiple people trying to satisfy their every desire. For the dudes, there is of course the element of being able to have sex with a beautiful woman, but I believe there is something more to it as well, as many seem to enjoy the camaraderie and of being a part of something that’s akin to an underground society. There is also an element to gangbangs that takes our more primitive and primal desires and allows them to play out in a safe and controlled environment.

This is a take from a female perspective, from the gonewildstories subreddit:

Sure, being gangbanged is physically demanding. But for me, it was a complete mind fuck. Usually, I’m a very organized, in control woman. Not neurotic, but I’m the type of woman who is always on time, has her closet organized/sorted, and is a creature of habit. But during my gangbang, I just gave up control. Gave up my body. Gave up my mind. It wasn’t exactly free use style, but it was very liberating and freeing, just to be used as an object, a fuck doll, a hotwife. This trophy that was celebrated, used and ultimately discarded with at the end. During the gangbang, my only thoughts were to please, service and satisfy the guy(s) on hand. What they wanted, I wanted. I needed to serve my role to them. In my head, it was a complete mind fuck.

What are gangbangs like

In practice, gangbangs may play out a little differently than how someone who hasn’t experienced one would imagine. They are usually kind of playful social events full of conversation and laughter. When dealing with established gangbang groups, it’s basically a bunch of old friends getting together and hanging out with a sexy woman or two. I go to one sometimes where the event starts with everyone sitting around fully clothed playing Jeopardy together. When the show ends, we know it’s time to start banging. At some other ones, there could be football or baseball games on the TV with the event taking on the look and feel of a naked watch party. While some other ones are more calm and intimate, with some soft conversation and aftercare thrown in with the cascade of cock.

Now, there are some other ones that have the look and feel of straight up prostitution, but, while I don’t particularly have anything against this, I don’t really recommend going to them either.

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Types of gangbangs

While nobody puts much stock in defining types of gangbangs and the terms that I use below are not really used by anybody in the field, there are a few distinctly different styles of gangbangs that warrant discussion.

Female-focused gangbangs

For lack of a better term, I will call them “female-focused gangbangs,” although they are just as often put on for a M/F couple as they are single women. The is a type of gangbang where the party caters to the female(s) where the men are vetted based on a set of predetermined characteristics — such as attractiveness, age, muscularity, race, height, cock size, etc. The women will often play a part in the selection process or enlist the help of a trusted gangbang group or her primary partner to do this for her. The idea is that she will be the center of attention and the men will seek to satisfy her every sexual desire. Think princess with a gaggle of hot male attendants here.

These gangbangs are generally non-commercial endeavors, and are either free or the group pitches in to cover the cost of hotel rooms, refreshments, etc.

Commercial gangbangs

Another type of gangbang is where the women are vetted based on physical appearance / other attributes and the qualifications that the men have to meet have more to do with their personality and willingness to fork over the admission fee. It is common for the women in this type of gangbang to be porn stars, Onlyfans creators, or sex workers. Yes, the women get paid and usually the organizer takes a cut as well. The price of this type of gangbang is usually in the range of $100 – $200 per party.

Informal gangbangs

A third type of gangbang is a little more informal that can take place organically at a swinger’s club, a private sex party, or simply be the result of a dude inviting over some of his buddies to be with his wife. The lines between orgy pile and gangbang can sometimes be blurred here.

Covered vs. Creampie gangbangs

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Any of the above types of gangbangs can be further classified as far as if condoms are required or not … or even outright prohibited. Covered gangbangs are where all the men must wear protection for vaginal or anal penetration. A creampie gangbang is where condoms are either strongly discouraged or banned. For the latter type, participants will often need to show proof of a recent STD test or be part of an established group where each member is expected to test regularly and know their status. The object of creampie gangbangs is, yes, the creampies — so men are expected to cum fast, voluminously, and often.

No holes barred / Greek gangbangs

This is a type of gangbang where anal penetration is on the table. Double penetration (DP), where one man is in a woman’s vagina while another is in her ass, is often possible at these parties.

Bukkake / Blowbang

This is a form of gangbang where a group of men will typically stand in a circle around a kneeling woman, where they will be sucked and jerked off until they cum on her face one after another.

Gangbang etiquette – Dos and don’ts

Communicate

Before a gangbang commences everybody should be informed as to the rules and what the central player’s desires and limits are. This will often be done in both the virtual communication that will happen prior to the event and then again at the beginning of the event when everyone is assembled together. This is also where men will be told what the plan is — for example, if the woman wants a special type of scene, such as being tied down, DP, etc.

But the communication should not end here. If you have a question or are unsure if something is acceptable, just ask the girl. Simply asking, “Can I cum in your mouth / on your face / on your tits” goes a long way. Communication is sexy.

Take turns

Gangbangs are usually very kinetic affairs, with dudes circling around the center girl(s), putting it in their mouths, vaginas, and butts (sometimes all at once) in succession. As, by definition, a gangbang will have more dudes than a girl can handle at any one time, taking turns is of optimal importance.

One of the worst things that you can do at a gangbang is to hog the center girl. Some dudes who are new to this sometimes don’t really understand how much time is acceptable to be active with a center girl while some other dudes seem as if they just don’t give a shit — or, perhaps worse, have seemingly deluded themselves into believing that they have some kind of special connection with the girl and that she enjoys them the most. Gangbangs are cooperative events, not a competition.

So be aware of what’s going on around you. Make sure you look around to see if other dudes are waiting. If so, keep your time in a pussy, mouth, or ass to under five minutes — you can always come back later. If no other dudes are around or they’re done and are just chilling, then take as long as you and the girl would like.

Established gangbang groups tend to be tight-knit little clubs — some going as far as to describe themselves as brotherhoods — and the name of the game is sharing. That’s what’s truly hot and that’s what were ultimately here for.

Be clean

This should go without saying, but sometimes this message isn’t understood with disastrous effects. I won’t go into detail here, but I will put it like this: one unclean person at a gangbang can ruin everything for everyone. If you’re going to a gangbang you’re going to be naked and in close proximity with other naked people, and while there’s going to be a lot of sweating and natural odors, do your best so that you’re not contributing any additional foul sights or scents. In other words, make sure you’re clean and well groomed.

Wash everything, don’t wear cologne, and TRIM YOUR PUBES AND ASS HAIR.

As a rule of thumb, have a shower be the final thing that you do before leaving for a gangbang. Even if you’ve showered earlier in the day, do it again. If you’re coming from work or from somewhere else beforehand, inquire with the host whether it would be cool to shower at the event — many are in hotel rooms, apartments, or sex clubs that have showers, and this is perfectly acceptable and even encouraged.

How to find people for a gangbang

There are a multitude of different ways to find people for a gangbang, from a dude calling over a bunch of his friends to devour his wife / girlfriend to all out clubs dedicated to hosting them.

Gangbang groups

Probably the best way to have a gangbang is to find a gangbang group in your area (or start one!). These groups can take on a variety of different styles and have a wide range of vibes. Some are full of high-fiving bros (seriously) and some are just your otherwise normal bunch of office workers, dads, and average Joes. Some are full of highly experienced, attractive, and courteous men while others seem like an X-rated parody of a Sir Mix-a-Lot video.

For female-focused bangs, the group should do all the organizing based on the preferences of the center girl(s). Usually, they have a stable of dudes ready to go. These groups can be found on Fetlife, SLS, etc. If you’re a female or couple with a gangbang fantasy reach out to a couple of them and get to know their organizers. Their quality can vary, but the good ones should be willing to do an initial platonic meeting to get to know you or invite you to come and watch one of their events to see if it’s your thing.

Yes, the guys in the gangbang matter, and finding a good group is everything:

I had an awesome time being gangbanged, if you didn’t already notice. One of the reasons why, was because the 5 guys were really cool and chill. I’m guessing it wasn’t their first time in a group sex thing. But it was mine. They were all nice, considerate, patient. No turf wars or jealously. They all made sure I was ok, comfortable and was enjoying everything. When I truly needed a break, they were all cool with it. They all knew that I was married, and they were respectful, no humiliation or anything like that. They could have been assholes and it would have been a completely different experience. But they were all blue collar, down to earth men who were just enjoying this opportunity. Plus, they weren’t Chippendales or pornstars or anything. Just average Joes, they were all bigger/larger than me.

If you’d like to have a gangbang in NYC and are looking for a good group, feel free to contact us.

If you’re a dude and you want to become a part of one of these groups, you could cold message them but it’s probably best to get into your local sex scene first, make friends, and take that where it goes. It would also help to be experienced with gangbangs first to familiarize yourself with the gangbang culture and ettiquette, and there’s no better way to do this then by going to a bunch of “commercial” bangs. The dudes in the gangbang community tend to move between different groups, so making friends and generally being cool and respectful can get you a reputation in the scene as a good prospect to invite into other groups. It may sound counter-intuitive, but getting enough quality dudes to fill a gangbang is more difficult than it seems.

Sex clubs

Many sex clubs either host gangbangs as part of the regular offerings or have dedicated gangbang events. However, I have to say that these can be a little hit or miss. Either they’re really hot or they’re really sketch. Some of the lower level, walk-in style clubs will hire girls to entertain their clientele. These girls tend to not be the most attractive and the scenes here are often not the most wholesome … I guess I’ll put it like that. While often not technically advertised as gangbangs, that’s just what happens when men vastly outnumber the women at a club where the women are on the payroll.

Have your own party

That’s right, if you’re interested in having a gangbang just put one on yourself. Put up an event listing on Fetlife, SLS, the appropriate subreddit, or a similar site or simply invite dudes that you’ve met previously at other kink events, get a hotel room or host in your home, and have your party your way.

Final words

Gangbangs have been some of the most memorable experiences that I’ve had in the swinging / kink world and I highly recommend them to anyone who has played with that fantasy. But I will warn you, the all out endorphin rush of a good gangbang can become addictive …

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Ender Wilder
Ender Wilderhttps://swingingsolution.com
Ender Wilder is a former big media journalist and author who escaped from that world to be able to write about anything he wants. He has been actively living the swinging life with his wife for many years, and is available to coach those who are just getting into the lifestyle or have hit some bumps along the road.

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